haha, i think i finally understand how much confusion ppl speaking different languages can have with one another..

super confused. hmm.. but with trust and the willingness to talk things thru.. nothing is unsolvable..

until the next misunderstanding~!

is GG getting any lamer? revealing a fake GG is like faking an O. and it's so not cool..

really nothing to write ah?

personally, awaiting the day they reveal the real GG. i want to see how they can pull it off. i doubt it is possible at all.

it's really funny when you realise that the people whom you try to forget are never far from your mind.. and your memories of them are even clearer than before..

i need to go for a walk and think about my life.. it's time to do some mental spring cleaning before my compartments collapse on me..

was reading thru my posts in july 2008, seems like i have forgotten who were the people and the incidents that i have encountered then..

i have really become quite forgetful lately. shocking but yes.. no recollection of certain memories that i am suppose to have and no inkling of the things that i should have remembered. how old does one need to be to get dementia?

fear of ending up with dementia aside.. it also seems very apparent to me that i have along the way forgotten how to live a simple carefree life and forgotten how to let things go..

i have also no clue as to how i've picked up the habit of becoming oversensitive to ppl's mood and behavioral changes..

must learn to be oblivious all over again. it's not good to care too much when u can't do anything about it.

must also learn to not burden ppl with my complains and concerns.

must be proactive in solving things that plague my mind.

” And I need someone now. I never needed anyone, but now I need someone. Yet, I’m alone. I’m more alone then I ever been. Because, there’s more people now. More people who supposedly love me but don’t. More people who say they care but they never show they do. But, God, how I wish I had just one person. I would give anything to have someone love me. Someone who will hold me and let me cry. I don’t have that. I never really had. It’s getting so hard to keep going. I wonder if there’s anyone who really does care. If there’s anyone who I can talk to when I need to. But, it’s just impossible. No ones there for me. And now, after all these years of being alone … I don’t even really want them there.” - Jacqueline Kelly

sometimes i feel like a lost soul just drifting through life…
by My Attitude - My Life - My Rules club

"You know my name, not my story."

A lot of times because of our nature, because of our past experiences, and because of what is status quo, we either intentionally or unintentionally judge a person's character when often we only know their name. Judging a person before we truly get to know who they really are, often results in judging a person wrong, which in turn prevents us from getting to know them as we really should because of these judgments.

You don't know all of the life situations that a person has experienced in the past, and what kind of life experiences or difficulties that they may be facing in the present, so do not judge them. Instead of treating someone as everyone else seems to, treat everyone in the way that most would desire to be treated, with kindness and compassion at all times remembering that you may know a person's name but that doesn't mean that you know their story.

You don't know all of the life situations that a person has experienced in the past, and what kind of life experiences or difficulties that they may be facing in the present, so do not judge them. Instead of treating someone as everyone else seems to, treat everyone in the way that most would desire to be treated, with kindness and compassion at all times remembering that you may know a person's name but that doesn't mean that you know their story.

by My Attitude - My Life - My Rules club.

i have never felt so misunderstood and misrepresented in my life.

don't know wat else to say..

天下无不散之筵席。。

i wish it could last longer. gonna miss u..

wat does it mean that i chance upon ur name after chatting about you?

hmm.. i can only say... it's just too bad.. it wasn't meant to be.

i guess i was really very clueless when i was young.. alot of missed opportunities..

we all have some wat ifs and could have beens in our lifes, it makes life more memorable bah.. if you get all that you have ever wanted.. u might not know wat u have missed along the way..

Everything You Thought You Knew About Learning Is Wrong

By Garth Sundem

Taking notes during class? Topic-focused study? A consistent learning environment? All are exactly opposite of the best strategies for learning.

I recently had the good fortune to interview Robert Bjork, the director of the UCLA Learning and Forgetting Lab, a distinguished professor of psychology, and a massively renowned expert on packing things in your brain in a way that keeps them from leaking out.

It turns out that everything I thought I knew about learning is wrong.

First, he told me, think about how you attack a pile of study material.

“People tend to try to learn in blocks,” Bjork said. “Mastering one thing before moving on to the next.”

Instead of doing that Bjork recommends interleaving. The strategy suggest that instead of spending an hour working on your tennis serve, you mix in a range of skills like backhands, volleys, overhead smashes, and footwork.

“This creates a sense of difficulty,” Bjork said. “And people tend not to notice the immediate effects of learning.”

Instead of making an appreciable leap forward with your serving ability after a session of focused practice, interleaving forces you to make nearly imperceptible steps forward with many skills. But over time, the sum of these small steps is much greater than the sum of the leaps you would have taken if you’d spent the same amount of time mastering each skill in its turn.

Bjork explains that successful interleaving allows you to “seat” each skill among the others. “If information is studied so that it can be interpreted in relation to other things in memory, learning is much more powerful,” he said. There’s one caveat: Make sure the mini skills you interleave are related in some higher-order way. If you’re trying to learn tennis, you’d want to interleave serves, backhands, volleys, smashes, and footwork — not serves, synchronized swimming, European capitals, and programming in Java.

Similarly, studying in only one location is great as long as you’ll only be required to recall the information in the same location. If you want information to be accessible outside your dorm room, or office, or nook on the second floor of the library, Bjork recommends varying your study location.

Interleaving and varying your study location will help whether you’re mastering math skills, learning French, or trying to become a better ballroom dancer. A somewhat related phenomenon — the spacing effect, which was first described by Hermann Ebbinghaus in 1885 — will also help.

“If you study and then you wait, tests show that the longer you wait, the more you will have forgotten,” Bjork said.

But here’s the cool part: If you study, wait, and then study again, the longer the wait, the more you’ll have learned after this second study session. Bjork explains it this way: “When we access things from our memory, we do more than reveal it’s there. It’s not like a playback. What we retrieve becomes more retrievable in the future. Provided the retrieval succeeds, the more difficult and involved the retrieval, the more beneficial it is.”

Note that there’s a trick implied by “provided the retrieval succeeds.” You should space your study sessions so that the information you learned in the first session remains just barely retrievable. Then, the more you have to work to pull it from the soup of your mind, the more this second study session will reinforce your learning. If you study again too soon, it’s too easy.

Along these lines, Bjork also recommends taking notes just after class, rather than during — forcing yourself to recall a lecture’s information is more effective than simply copying it from a blackboard. You have to work for it. The more you work, the more you learn, and the more you learn, the more awesome you can become.

“Forget about forgetting,” said Bjork. “People tend to think that learning is building up something in your memory and that forgetting is losing the things you built. But in some respects the opposite is true.”

See, once you learn something, you never actually forget it. Do you remember your childhood best friend’s phone number? No? Well, Bjork showed that if you were reminded, you would retain it much more quickly and strongly than if you were asked to memorize a fresh seven-digit number. So this old phone number is not forgotten — it lives somewhere in you — but recall can be a bit tricky. And while we count forgetting as the sworn enemy of learning, in some ways that’s wrong, too. The two live in a kind of symbiosis in which forgetting actually aids recall.

“Because humans have unlimited storage capacity, having total recall would be a mess,” said Bjork. “Imagine you remembered all the phone numbers of all the houses you had ever lived in. When someone asks you your current phone number, you would have to sort it from this long list.” Instead, we forget the old phone numbers, or at least bury them far beneath the ease of recall we gift to our current number. What you thought were sworn enemies are more like distant collaborators.