Sometimes people need to think about their motive when they talk to people.. If ur objective is to share care and concern or even encouragement... don't suddenly change the conversation into teaching or reprimanding one halfway..

I don't need to know how much I fail to meet ur high expectations.. your need for me to have the most positive of mindset, to be traditional and subservient in the face of authority or even to rise above the unjust situation..

What I need is a listening ear and a sympathetic pat on the back.. what I need is for you to understand my frustrations with the situation.. and be okay with my reactions becos I'm human and I am not perfect.. I am not an enlightened being that can rise above all kinds of situations.. I should be entitled the time to think.. to evaluate.. to navigate a new situation..

And I would love to be trusted to be able to eventually rise above.. to know that in ur mind and heart that you believe that I have the right mindset to get me past this and make the right decisions and choices..

So please stop criticising my behaviour and stop your need to preach or rush me to be a better person.. I don't need it.. I can live with one less criticism or one less harsh judgement on my character..

I will get there on my own time.. at least I believe I will.. even if I'm the only one who does..

a great lesson in leadership..

"It’s because they believed in me. Believed that I knew them well enough, and believed in them enough. To tell them how, and when to use their brains. I’m talking about people like you. That kind of belief, you have to earn it. And you cannot earn it in a day. You want someone to run a 4 minute mile? You don’t chase them. You don’t give them something to run from. You give them something to run to. " - Richard Webber, Grey's Anatomy

a good summary as to the kind of person we should find.. never sell urself short and settle for less..

"After all, what makes a good partner? Someone who trusts you, supports you, who pushes you to be better; someone who pulls you back from the edge and reminds you of who you are when you're in danger of losing sight of it. Someone who doesn't judge you from your past mistakes but loves you in spite of them; someone who has faith in you, who reminds you every day that the world is a better place with you in it and who doesn't give up on you when you mess up but instead encourages you to try again."