change is in the air..

i have a feeling that there will be alot of changes in 2010.. hopefully good, happy ones..

anger management

from observation, when ppl encounter a situation which irritates them, there are usually 4 types of responses..

1. get angry and get aggressive

2. get angry and get passive aggressive

3. get angry and extract self from situation permanently to not face with similar situation

4. get angry and actively seek a resolution

well.. there is another type of response where one see past ones' irritation and go straight to finding a solution.. an enlightened way of behaving which is a rare occurrence.. definitely not the usual response..

i have to admit, most of the time i end up getting angry and react passive aggressively.. occasionally when i decide to be more mature... i will be under type 4...

it's not that easy to choose 4.. cos ppl tend to want to strike back or run away... fight or flight...

i see alot of type 3 and 4 cos i always happen to be in female company..

if one is logical, one should think about wat kind of result one wants and then react accordingly to get that result..

for eg. A bosses B around at work even though A has no right to.. B gets irritated..

most ppl will endure and as the frequency of it occurring increases gets angry and start to get passive agressive... hoping that A will realise that they are unhappy and stop bossing them around.. when that does not happen B gets even more upset, end up being very resentful and continue with passive aggression or they decide to quit and find another job...

wat B wants is actually for A to stop bossing B around... but... most of the time B don't actively do something abt it... they tend to get angry and stay angry.. and get angrier when the bossing continues...

we learn in physics that an object in motion stays in motion if there are not other force acting on it... i think it applies to ppl too... if u getting angry don't stop the bossing... continuing to get angry or even more angry will not move you towards to result that u want... so why not do something different about it and see if it will get you the result that u want? anyway, staying pissed didn't help, did it?

sometimes resolution need not result in confrontation with the other person... just some creativity to help one steer clear of similar situations..

someone once told me... you cannot control other ppl's behavior, you can only control your own reaction to it... you can choose to stay angry or u can choose to do something about it..

life's about making choices..



sad to say.. most of the time i forget i need to think about wat result i want... i just end up feeling like i want to stay angry.. lol.... stubborn and childish... but i like to indulge myself sometimes...

on a totally different note...


HAPPY 1 YEAR!

time flies..

reminder to self,

DO NOT use credit card to buy things that will cost me an earful of lecture..

i ended up with 3 blue blacks on the back of my hand today...

wonder if it is caused by the magazines that i was trying to rearrange or i really have a bruising problem... since i often spot blue blacks on my legs as well.... hmmm...

thou shall not play any card games during cny... no card luck...

shall try mahjiong instead... think i have better luck there..

is it very hard to understand how i think? why do ppl judge wat i do? do they expect me to change by voicing them out?

i think my objective on life is very different... and the ppl around me seem to have similar ones... why am i always the odd one out? do i not see wat they see? or have i seen pass them?

i might only get the answer on the day i die... that is if dementia or other mental illness don't claim my mind first..

it's so weird to stare out and see the jurong library from my house.... keep forgetting that they tore down the entertainment centre to build a new one..

Invictus - William Ernest Henley

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

my theory that i only shop overseas was thrown out of the window today...

three cds
two pairs of jeans
two t shirts
two blouse
wallet
bag
perfume


and counting..... have your world spun off it's axis? mine definitely did...




i hope i don't spend more than 400 bucks... *cross fingers*

i am experiencing excruciating butt pain... lol... almost like a butt cramp at the pressure pt of the butt... like someone pinching it and not let go...

remember not to put one foot on the trolley when trying to lift a carton... trolleys have wheels and no breaks..

seem to be thinking abt useless things nowadays... wat a waste of my energy





side pt.... did they change the milo? the packet drink taste like drain water... yuck...