enter at your own risk.. i will not entertain.. u may think that it is mundane or that it is too unbelievable to be true.. so wat?
Sunday, November 27, 2011
Saturday, November 26, 2011
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Sunday, November 13, 2011
does it make me too invasive, breaching ppl's defenses? does it make me a busybody who don't know when to back off? or does it make me look like a manipulator who is digging for secrets? maybe it is so in others' eyes.. so disheartening.. is there no good that ppl can do for one another? or just that ppl don't believe in anything anymore?
maybe that's wat i have been doing to ppl too. maybe the manisfestation of my care and concern is not wat they need.
can't ppl just ask wat other ppl want before they give it to them?
but then again, how many ppl can answer honestly and directly when being asked?
and how many ppl when given a reply, truly believe the answer that was given?
ppl are just so screwed up. including me. great.
Saturday, November 12, 2011
hmmm...
anyway... an interesting topic of discussion came up.. am i a person who has an inclination to rely on or place too much value on emotion, aka heavily sentimental person.
i have always believe that i am a person who lives by logic.. and to me, right and wrong is more important than how close the person is in relation to me..
but of course, there have been ocassions that prove otherwise.. totally illogical to the point of ridiculous.. so... am i confused? disillusioned? or just being a gemini? lol..
but according to the below... i am.
重感情的人有这种习惯来源
⒈ 总会把事情想得很长久
⒉ 喜欢黑夜 习惯晚睡
⒊ 很固执 不懂得放弃 但一旦放弃了就绝不会回头
⒋ 在别人面前笑得很开心 一个人旳时候却很漠落
⒌ 在陌生人面前很安静 在朋友面前胡闹
⒍ 喜欢写字 阅读
⒎ 莫名地孤单 无法抗拒的恐惧感
⒏ 不爱说话 很爱说话
⒐ 心情不好旳时候 却喜欢听悲歌
⒑ 容易满足 更容易受伤
⒒ 习惯了沉默 在沉默中爆发或者选择灭亡
⒓ 习惯保留自己 因为只有这样在离开旳时候 心才不会痛
⒔ 不相信童话 却一直期待会有个真正懂得自己保护自己旳人出现
⒕ 喜欢怀旧 之后感到深深旳寂寞 恐惧
⒖ 一点点事就胡思乱想 想到戏剧般旳吓人
⒗ 付出旳远远超过得到旳
⒘ 坐在电脑前 不知道做什么 却又不想关掉它
⒙ 觉得世界上每一个人都不可靠 但却还是那样地选择相信别人
⒚ 不习惯一个人莫名其妙地消失在自己旳生命中
⒚ 心事放在心底,有一个自己的世界文章来源于
⒚ 总有一种被忽视的感觉, 偶尔会有种想消失的念头
Monday, November 07, 2011
Sunday, October 30, 2011
or am i too practical and logical about it? but i obviously see solutions which ppl are not taking..
i guess ppl won't die from being around ppl who do things they hate... but i would want to get away.. no one has the right to mentally abuse anyone.. does it mean that i am cold hearted and unforgiving?
maybe i haven't loved anyone that deeply in my life, not even family... but i do believe that staying around does not mean that it's the best thing for both parties.. and leaving doesn't mean giving up on them.. sometimes the act of leaving allows ppl to learn more and grow more..
time to start packing?
good qn..
Monday, October 17, 2011
入戏太深 - 陈洁仪
词黄桂兰
曲吴旭文
周围灯光缓缓的亮起
梦境在逐渐成形
身后场景分外的美丽
世界也一起失真
我正入镜
你又导又演的这场戏
爱情剧本百转又千回
编写伤心
你的台词一句句扣我神魂
恍惚中
我为你流下真的泪
我为你专注的表演
已耗尽力气
我竟如此入戏太深
拿捏之间失了分寸
我竟如此入戏太深
梦和现实乱了界线
我竟忘记原本的自己
全陷入你要的角色里
恍惚中
我为你流下真的泪
我为你专注的表演
已耗尽力气
我竟如此入戏太深
拿捏之间失了分寸
我竟如此入戏太深
梦和现实乱了界线
我竟忘记原本的自己
全陷入你要的角色里
我竟如此入戏太深
拿捏之间失了分寸
我竟如此入戏太深
梦和现实乱了界线
我竟忘记原本的自己
全陷入你要的角色里
周围灯光缓缓的暗去
漆黑漫入我身躯
身后场景片片的卸去
世界也跟著破碎
你早已出镜
我却留在原地
留在故事里
interesting concept, shared by s.
February 23, 1996
How to Procrastinate and Still Get Things Done
By John Perry
I have been intending to write this essay for months. Why am I finally doing it? Because I finally found some uncommitted time? Wrong. I have papers to grade, a grant proposal to review, drafts of dissertations to read.
I am working on this essay as a way of not doing all of those things. This is the essence of what I call structured procrastination, an amazing strategy I have discovered that converts procrastinators into effective human beings, respected and admired for all that they can accomplish and the good use they make of time.
All procrastinators put off things they have to do. Structured procrastination is the art of making this bad trait work for you. The key idea is that procrastinating does not mean doing absolutely nothing. Procrastinators seldom do absolutely nothing; they do marginally useful things, such as gardening or sharpening pencils or making a diagram of how they will reorganize their files when they find the time. Why does the procrastinator do these things? Because accomplishing these tasks is a way of not doing something more important.
If all the procrastinator had left to do was to sharpen some pencils, no force on earth could get him to do it. However, the procrastinator can be motivated to do difficult, timely, and important tasks, as long as these tasks are a way of not doing something more important.
To make structured procrastination work for you, begin by establishing a hierarchy of the tasks you have to do, in order of importance from the most urgent to the least important. Even though the most-important tasks are on top, you have worthwhile tasks to perform lower on the list. Doing those tasks becomes a way of not doing the things higher on the list. With this sort of appropriate task structure, you can become a useful citizen. Indeed, the procrastinator can even acquire, as I have, a reputation for getting a lot done.
The most perfect situation for structured procrastination that I have encountered occurred when my wife and I served as resident fellows in Soto House, a Stanford University dormitory. In the evening, faced with papers to grade, lectures to prepare, and committee work to do, I would leave our cottage next to the dorm and go over to the lounge and play Ping-Pong with the residents or talk things over with them in their rooms -- or even just sit in the lounge and read the paper. I got a reputation for being a terrific resident fellow, one of the rare profs on campus who spent time with undergraduates and got to know them. What a setup: Play Ping-Pong as a way of not doing more important things, and get a reputation as Mr. Chips.
Procrastinators often follow exactly the wrong tack. They try to minimize their commitments, assuming that if they have only a few things to do, they will quit procrastinating and get them done. But this approach ignores the basic nature of the procrastinator and destroys his most important source of motivation. The few tasks on his list will be, by definition, the most important. And the only way to avoid doing them will be to do nothing. This is the way to become a couch potato, not an effective human being.
At this point you may be asking, "How about the important tasks at the top of the list?" Admittedly, they pose a potential problem.
The second step in the art of structured procrastination is to pick the right sorts of projects for the top of the list. The ideal projects have two characteristics -- they seem to have clear deadlines (but really don't), and they seem awfully important (but really aren't). Luckily, life abounds with such tasks. At universities, the vast majority of tasks fall into those two categories, and I'm sure the same is true for most other institutions.
Take, for example, the item at the top of my list right now -- finishing an essay for a volume on the philosophy of language. It was supposed to be done 11 months ago. I have accomplished an enormous number of important things as a way of not working on it. A couple of months ago, nagged by guilt, I wrote a letter to the editor saying how sorry I was to be so late and expressing my good intentions to get to work. Writing the letter was, of course, a way of not working on the article. It turned out that I really wasn't much further behind schedule than anyone else. And how important is this article, anyway? Not so important that at some point something that I view as more important won't come along. Then I'll get to work on it.
Let me describe how I handled a familiar situation last summer. The book-order forms for a class scheduled for fall were overdue by early June. By July, it was easy to consider this an important task with a pressing deadline. (For procrastinators, deadlines start to press a week or two after they pass.) I got almost daily reminders from the department secretary; students sometimes asked me what we would be reading; and the unfilled order form sat right in the middle of my desk for weeks. This task was near the top of my list; it bothered me -- and motivated me to do other useful, but superficially less important, things. In fact, I knew that the bookstore was already plenty busy with forms filed by non-procrastinators. I knew that I could submit mine in midsummer and things would be fine. I just needed to order popular books from efficient publishers. I accepted another, apparently more important, task in early August, and my psyche finally felt comfortable about filling out the order form as a way of not doing this new task.
At this point, the observant reader may feel that structured procrastination requires a certain amount of self-deception, since one is, in effect, constantly perpetrating a pyramid scheme on oneself. Exactly. One needs to be able to recognize and commit oneself to tasks with inflated importance and unreal deadlines, while making oneself feel that they are important and urgent. This clears the way to accomplish several apparently less urgent, but eminently achievable, tasks. And virtually all procrastinators also have excellent skills at self-deception -- so what could be more noble than using one character flaw to offset the effects of another?
John Perry is a professor of philosophy at Stanford University.