i always seem to be at a lost when someone is in dire need of comforting..

maybe it stems from the fact that i'm not used to being comforted by ppl.. i self comfort.. if there's such a term..

who's better than the self to understand one's situation and know exactly wat needs to be 'said' to get one out of the doldrums, anger or hurt..

and half the time i find it tiring to explain to a kind friend who wants to help cheer me up.. cos some just couldn't get wat i'm trying to tell them.. or rather.. wat i hope they infer from wat i tell them..

everyone reacts differently to different situations and have different values and beliefs which leads them to different thots and opinions...

it's possible to predict a friend's reaction to an issue.. but it comes with a relatively deep understanding of the friend, some amount of guesswork and a little bit of luck.. it is never hundred percent accurate..

that's why i always opt for self healing... but of course, an occasional chat with friends about my issues tend to bring up some interesting new perspective to the issue which may lead me to resolving them quicker..