till now i still do not understand the excessive fretting i get from my parents... it's totally illogical and impractical to fret over every part of your child's life... especially when your child is an adult...

i believe everyone should be responsible for their own lives and live with the consequences of their choices... so... there is no pt in worrying for someone else when u can do nothing about it... well... of course u can try controlling your children's lives.... but how long can u live? it's too obsessive a way of doing things...

i want to be a parent who teaches their children principles and values that will aid them in making their life choices... nurture their abilities to handle adversities... and letting them live their life.. maybe just be there when they fall to remind them that they can stand back up.... but not worry myself sick everyday thinking if they will make the right choice... who in the world makes all the right choices? and of course... wat is a right choice... a right choice in 2005 may not be a right choice in 2009... not to say character, situation etc makes a difference too...

and... very imptly.. how ur child end up in future... sometimes... it's not really a measure of how well or how badly you raised ur kid.... you may give them all the right tools and equipment but... it really does not garuantee anything... i really don't think parents should blame themselves for the failures or sad situation that their children end up in... well.. prerequisit is that they did their job of teaching their kids the life skills that they know of lar....

die lar... i think i'll end up being a cold blooded parent... erm... who wants to be my children's godmum so that they will get some tender loving care?


and... yes... close ur gaps... i do want to have kids one day... and no... this post is not a sign that i am desperate.... nor that my bio clock is ticking... it's just things i have observed these past 23yrs and the thots i got out from thinking about them..