being misunderstood by strangers or aquaintances should be a normal occurance in one's life.. hence one would not feel too strongly about it unless one is being treated unfairly or cruelly due to such misperception.. also, it is easier to brush off and easier to see that these people are misguided and ignorant..

being misunderstood by close friends and family is a whole different level.. especially family.. it hurts a great deal.. and it hurts even more when you suddenly realise that your close friends know you better than your family and are more willing to look at you will no colored lenses..

sometimes when people know each other for so long.. it is so easy to fall into the trap of thinking that we have understood all there is to understand of that person and forget that a person can learn, grow and change.. and family members tend to fall into this trap even more easily.. we are so sure of ourselves, of our knowledge about the people we love that we never stop to think, to evaluate and to recognise the changes in them. and this negligence is one of the most hurtful thing that you can do to the people you care for..

so open your eyes and take a look a the people around you.. forget the past and look at the present.. acknowledge their every change.. cos it will definitely not be the last.. in today's words: update the version of the person in your mind to the latest version or you might risk lagginess and malfunction.