Aubrey's convo with Dr. B. on their experiences as an abandoned child.

B: I was angry for years..
A: How did u get over it?
B: I didn't.
A: So this isn't a comforting talk
B: No.. The pain is always there. The challenge is to not try and make it go away.
A: Really not comforting..
B: Fighting is the problem. We fight to change the past or push it away.. but the pain is part of who we are.
B: It's like the discovery of the quark.. it upended all our theories about physics. There was fury, fighting but it was true. And when it was finally accepted, it gave us a better understanding of life. If we have denied it, there would have been no progress.
B: It's not easy A.. but nothing of value is.

We always fight to suppress painful memories and walking away from people who hurt us.. but sometimes.. we forgot that these painful memories and these hurtful people makes us who we are and we forget to be thankful that these experiences make us better people..