i know i should be preparing to go to sch and that there's alot of other things to do but.. haha.. i happen to be surfing the net and i stumbled upon a forum that's discussing a very interesting qn.. a qn that shar would like to know the ans to..


Below is an edited version of the whole thread...

What is the real difference between being friends and being a couple? I'm not asking what is different about being a coupe vs friends but what differences lead to either one. Is it love? If so what does that even mean? Or is the only difference between good friends and a couples sexual attraction? Or is it something more?

I've never had a girlfriend or any good girl friends.
I have many good guy friends, I really like them, could I say I love them? I would do just about anything for them and trust them with my life. Though I have no sexual attraction to them. So is having a girlfriend like that except there is sexual attraction?


There is more to being in a relationship than just being freinds who have sex.
There is an extra element... its indescribable... but its best summed up by "commitment and passion".

I think being a couple is essentially being good friends, having sex, and romantic love, which usually proceeds from the other two.

The love you have for your guy friends isn't quite the same. It is similar, but the sexual attraction does play a major role.

I sometimes wonder if romantic love is just our psychological/cultural way of dealing with lust, but that's another discussion altogether.

the real difference between all types of relationships, professional, business, friends, intimate, romatic.... etc... etc...

EXPECTATIONS...

intensity of your relationship depends on that... thus the end result... depends on that as well.... joy, happiness, pain or sadness, etc.... are the end results...

you have different expectations from a friend than when he/she is your bf/gf... so your reactions to the end result will be different...

example.. you don't have a right to be jealous when your friend sees someone else or cancel your plan with her/him... you can be jealous-ed but you can't show that to him/her... but if she/he is your gf/bf... you'll be mad on top of your head...

The most tangible difference is the sex. The hardest difference to describe is the love.

If you aren't getting sex though, you are just "great friends" and are free to sleep with whomever you please. Unless you are head over heels in love (hence, difficult to describe) don't remain more than friends with someone who doesn't give you sex. Trust me.

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opinions from different ppl...

the whole convo reminded me of the time at starbucks in vivo where me, nott and nanana had a similar convo about this topic...

i still stand by my view that sexual attraction is a big factor in r/s that go beyond friendship..

i think with that i can safely say i'm sorry to all non heterosexuals that are out there who have a crush on me (not like there are anyone who has a crush on me.. but still, i sometimes also like to think of myself as queen of the world..), this gal here not attracted to gals in any physical way... so shar... stop qn-ing my orientation... hahaa...

well.. the last line was the main pt.. ahahhahaha.. oh yar.. and i hope the thread i posted gives u something to think about..