i got comments.. too long for shar's blog though..

my take on r/s..

hmm.. true about friendship being longer lasting than r/s.. but i think self-fulfilling prophecy plays an impt part.. not alot of ppl would think of their r/s as permanent.. most would think that it is relatively permanent... alot of those who think that r/s is a one time affair that leads to marriage and says 'this is it and there's no other' tends to stay long in r/s and get married.. i always think the some who didn't is cos their other half does not think the same way...

the reasons that ppl get attached are also very impt determinants.. one thing i want to say.. there is a difference between needs and expectations or wants... i think ppl who meet each other's needs will stay together longer.. cos expectations are very much of matching the person u have with the ideal in ur head and see how much it fits.. and wants can be quite frivolous sometimes..

sunken cost is never the best reason to remain in a r/s... cos though u spent x no. of yrs to make this r/s work and x amt of time and effort to make it thru... but imagine.. u may be spending 10x-20x amt of time and years to endure the same things that u have been enduring.. a few years, yes... but... 40 years? 50? some ppl have alot of patience to wait for a change to occur in the other person.. some ppl just get used to wat they don't like.. and some ppl choose to actively seek wat they love/like in another person... so.. i guess is up to the individual bah..

haha.. i don't think ppl get into r/s with solely reproduction in mind.. the act before reproduction is more likely.. hahaha... and being in r/s it becomes more acceptable... and.. it's a more stable one compared to one night stands.. less risk.. hahha.. so yes.. hahaha.. fruit for thot?

haha.. sorry.. can't resist a pun..